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Essentially Brisbane brunette and all round girlfriend extraordinaire, Cara Valence.

What does your name mean? 

Valence means the capacity of one person to interact with or affect another in a special way, for example by attraction or the act of service. I chose it because I liked the sound of the word and the meaning is very apt.

Would you rather snuggle up beside a fire with a good book/Netflix n chill, or hit the beach/night club? 

All four! I'm a huge reader and can spend whole days reading plus I love Netflix docos. I equally love getting to the beach in summer and having the occasional night out although I'm not a huge drinker or partier. 

What was your first booking like? 

Awful! I think the client could sense I was a newbie so he bargained my rate and was kind of pushy. He spent the second half of the booking lamenting his decision to be there and the state of his marriage. I was glad when it was over but I learnt a valuable lesson or two!

How did you discover the escort industry? 

I'd been curious forever and wanted to work at a brothel near me but chickened out. I was in a full-time job at the time and I was terrified of being found out as my workplace was close by. I left that job and one day just decided to place an ad and after that it was easy. 

Pet peeves about the industry? 

My biggest is time wasters and potential clients not reading my ads or website properly. Most questions can be answered in the ad! And of course decriminalisation, it's long overdue in Australia, if NSW and the NT can do it so can the rest of the country. 

Things you adore about it? 

The freedom it gives me. I work another part-time job because I choose to but otherwise my time is my own and my business is a big part of that. I've also learnt a huge amount about running a business, marketing, websites etc, and have become passionate about the decrim issue. 

How many other escorts have you met and do you socialise with them? 

Lots as I spent time working in a couple of brothels but ultimately that environment wasn't for me. I met one of my closest friends at a brothel and we talk and hang out regularly, we've supported each other with our businesses and life in general, she's a great girl and I'm lucky to have found her. 

What surprised you most about becoming an escort? 

Just how easily I settled into it, I feel grateful I'm the kind of person who can do this job because it's not necessarily for everyone. Also how normal other escorts are! 

I come from a professional background and it was great meeting other ladies of all ages who were like me in that they were studying or working professional jobs etc.  

What surprises you most about your clients? 

Again, that they're so normal! I tend to attract a slightly older, professional demographic and I've met a lot of really interesting people. The reasons people see a sex worker are varied and I don't pry, I just take them as they come.

Complete this sentence, Cara Valence is unique because...

She's intelligent, creative, individual and spirited! 

Thank you Cara, I have to agree you name is very apt for who you are indeed!

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